When you are in charge, what are your Responsibilities?
Whether it's your children, your students in the classroom, the teachers that you manage or the administrators that you oversee as superintendant, you need to think about what and who you're supporting.
At home, if you let one child bully or tease the other, there will be long-term trust issues with you and that child. You also run the risk that your children will not be as close as adults because of the tension you seeded or let happened from a difficult childhood.
In the classroom, if you don't stop students from bullying, teasing or intellectually intimidating others, school will seem unfair. As the teacher, you need to defend the other students. Like at home the adults are in charge. The young person is not in the position to raise themselves. We have all been in that class where one student monopolies the time by talking or disrupting and the teacher does nothing to curtail this disruption.
Parenting and Teaching are two areas I know and have been on both sides as brother/student and parent/teacher.
I think Principles need to protect the teachers and tell them to “take a step back” or “look at the bigger picture” parents and teacher do this all the time. It's harder for principals they have anywhere from 20 to 200 teachers. I worked 17 years in a teacher-run school, I have been the innocent victim and the provocateur many times, and the principals that got to know me were the ones that used my skills the best.
Institutional oversight of managers and administrators is a hard one too. No one is born to lead; you have to learn on the job. (PBL) Superintendents that say; "if we could just treat everyone the same” or "my job would be easier if we had one rule for everyone " you are not “Super.” Just as the parents, teachers, and principals go in and talk to their kids, students and teachers you need to do the same. I know that it is time-consuming and challenging, but that's why your job starts with Super.
The connection here is: if you are responsible for people, you need to get to know them, see what they need to thrive and protect them. I do that with my two sons, and they are fantastic, and with my students who did excellent work. Never cut corners when charged with managing people.